• Lisette…an excellent article. This has many applications to different facets of our own lives. Thanks for sharing your personal experience…it helps me to also put things into perspective!

    From Trev Witt
    February 23, 2012

  • I can learn from your article in more ways that I could even imagine. I always thought myself as a very self-assured and pretty much happy person who knew how to accept all things. Well not so much! There are several aspects of my life that have been holding me back.So I will follow your advise and I will go through a letting go cerimony. I am hoping I will have the same joyous results you had. I cannot wait to say”Ah, the joy of letting go!” thanks for the article Lizette and I hope I will get to see you sometime in the near future. Paola

    From Paola Maoli
    February 23, 2012

  • fabulous news! and just so Lisette-ly wonderful to put it all into a tale to help me and others!

    From Merlyn Ruddell
    February 28, 2012

Letting Go

As many of you already know, I have been patiently waiting for my house in Columbia, SC to sell so my children and I can get our own place on the island. At least, I thought I was being patient. 

I think it’s important to know that my house is adorable — any buyer would be lucky to own it, thus I was certain it would sell in a matter of weeks. I clung to this dysfunctional optimism despite many negative reassurances from anyone and everyone that the idea of my house selling quickly was laughable. Okay, they didn’t come right out and laugh, but their knowing grins were just as irritating.

My house remained on the market month after month and my frustration grew, mostly because I couldn’t reconcile my expectations with the reality. My house was supposed to sell quickly. I was supposed to get close to the asking price. None of that was happening and the kids and I are still living with my parents.

In my “Letting Go” lecture last week I heard myself saying that “An expectation is a premeditated resentment.” Soon after, I realized that my expectations about when and how my house should sell were creating just such resentments. Each month that my house remained on the market my resentments grew.

The notion that expectations are future resentments is applicable to so many aspects of life. How often do we harbor resentments because people don’t do or behave just as we expect? How often do we allow resentments or frustrations from vacations or events that didn’t go exactly as we planned to steal all possible enjoyment?  Expectations are often elusive attempts at control. Not until we let go of our need for control can we allow the universe to do its magic which results in a wonderful byproduct, serenity.

Letting go is part of the realization that we can’t control others, and to some extent, outcomes. Letting go is the belief that things are exactly how they should be regardless of whether or not it’s what we wanted. Don’t get me wrong, I realize that last sentence sounds a little too simple and that letting go is not a passive endeavor but rather an active choice – one that can be very difficult to make. However, what a great choice…cling to your rigid expectations and live in caustic resentment or give up your expectations and see where life takes you with fascination and curiosity?

With this reminder, I visited my home in Columbia and had my own little letting go ceremony. I reflected on many joyous memories the house has afforded me through the years — Gabrielle grinning from ear to ear with outstretched arms for me to lift her from her crib; Delany laughing hysterically when I sang the lollipop song; Raucous parties with dear friends, and many more. I was filled with gratitude which transformed my expectations and resulting resentment into a desire for the house to make it into the hands of just the right family, no matter how long that took.

And guess what happened…the universe did its magic two weeks later. My house is under contract! Ah, the joy of letting go.

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