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Ask the Expert: Why do I keep eating when stressed?

Q:  I find that whenever I get stressed or overwhelmed, all I want to do is eat – and I typically go for foods that aren’t the “best” for me.  (Hello pint of ice cream!)  Is there something I can do to help manage this?

A:  When you find yourself reaching for the chips or cookies when you’re stressed out, the first step is to take a 10-minute time-out.  Don’t eat anything for at least 10 minutes.  Take time to think about what you’re doing.  Ask yourself, “What am I really looking for?”  You probably want to feel calm or relaxed.  Food, especially carbohydrates, may calm you down in the short term, but you’ll probably wind up feeling just as stressed –and guilty, too—a couple hours after you eat. 

Ask yourself what you could do to directly address the underlying problem—the source of your stress.  For example, if you’re worried about a work deadline, stop procrastinating and take steps to start or complete the project.  If there isn’t anything you can do to address the stressful situation, try an activity that will relax you.  Deep breathing, exercising, meditating, or petting your dog or cat may help you calm down.  Talking to a friend or writing about your stress may help you feel better, too.  If there isn’t anything you can do to relax in the moment, try distracting yourself from your stress by doing a word puzzle, reading, or getting involved in a project that keeps your hands busy.  As a last resort, keep a lower-calorie food (such as reduced-fat popcorn) on hand if you do choose to eat when you’re stressed.

 

We have a great 3-day workshop here at H3 coming up at the end of September that focuses on giving you the tools and support needed to regain control of your eating.  You will have the opportunity to explore the many ways your emotions and everyday stressors can affect your relationship with food and learn a variety of mindful techniques that are key to overcoming these self-sabotaging eating patterns.  Visit our website to learn more.

 

The Degrees of ‘On’

I’m sitting in my office today, having missed my morning jog.  I’m running a little low in the sleep department today – my daughter has not slept through the night for the past 3 nights, not to mention the nausea and restlessness I am experiencing – symptoms of the first trimester, being pregnant with baby #2.  As I was scolding myself in my mind for not getting up and doing it anyway, I was reminded by Bob Wright’s phrase about the degrees of on…

Life has its way of hitting us, whether planned or unexpected, with hills and valleys to make our journey more interesting.  Whether it’s pregnancy, a new client/task at work, illness, or otherwise – there are always things that may cause our plans or intentions to change.  When these things happen, it is crucial that we stay in the positive.  As I reflected on the negative self-talk I was giving myself, I realized that in no way was it motivating me to go for a walk this evening, let alone get up for my run tomorrow morning.  Resilience is the key to success in any long-term goal you face, and keeping a positive attitude is crucial to that resilience. 

Below are some tools I’ve used to help me stay positive when I initially try to turn on myself:

-       I remind myself what I have done, as opposed to what I haven’t.  Sometimes I have to look back further than other times to find something I’m proud to have accomplished, but I keep looking back until I get the result I’m looking for.  For example, some days it is enough for me to remember that I have gotten up for my run twice earlier in the week.  Other days, I have to go back to the first ½ marathon I ran to feel that same sense of success.  

-       Set an achievable goal – something I feel at least 70% confident I can accomplish, which gives me a new focus.  It doesn’t matter how small the task it – what’s crucial is that you set yourself up for success so you can build on it.

-       Acknowledge that today is only one day – and that one day does not summarize who I am as a person, what my health is, or what my success is. 

What are some things you do to help you keep a positive attitude?

My Exercise Buddy makes it hard to miss a workout!

My Exercise Buddy makes it hard to miss a workout!

 

Ask the Expert: Dealing with Unsupportive Friends & Family

 Q:   I’ve recently started making changes to my lifestyle to become a healthier person.  Unfortunately, I’m finding that one of my closest friends doesn’t seem to be supportive (or as supportive as I’d like).  She hasn’t come out and clearly stated this- though through her actions I can tell she does not approve.  How can I talk to her without losing her as a friend?

 

Beth LeermakersA:  Beth Leermakers, H3 Wellness Counselor:

Friends or loved ones who don’t support your healthy lifestyle behaviors—by being the “food police” or bringing tempting foods into your home—can interfere with your progress.  Your loved ones may be trying to help you (but don’t know how), or they may be unaware of how damaging their words and actions are.  To address these unsupportive behaviors, try using “I” statements that focus on your feelings, explain how another person’s behavior affects you, and asks for change. 

 

Here’s the format:

I feel (specific emotion:  angry, frustrated, annoyed, sad) when (describe the specific behavior that upsets you, in objective terms) because (explain why the other person’s behavior bothers you) and I want (describe specifically what you want the other person to do differently in the future).

 

For example:

I feel angry when you comment on my food choices and tell me I’m not supposed to eat something because I feel like you’re trying to control me and you don’t trust me to make the right choices.  And I want you to please let me make my own food choices.  I know how to follow a healthy eating plan, and occasional treats can be a part of my plan. 

 

When someone really wants to help you but doesn’t know how, think of specific ways for that person to help you.  For example, you might say “I appreciate your desire to help me.  You could really help me by choosing/suggesting restaurants that have healthier options on the menu, or by cooking a healthy meal once a week.” 

 

It’s hard to recreate an environment as supportive as Hilton Head Health – but don’t worry – you can stay connected with our staff and other guests via our Facebook page.  Look up a friend near you, post to the discussion board or connect with us on the wall.   A healthy lifestyle is a journey – and you are not traveling alone!

 

Just Say No!

When you add physical activity and healthy eating (with all the planning and preparation they require) to your lifestyle, something has to give to make time for them.  When you take on too many responsibilities at home, work, and/or in your community, you may not have enough time and energy left to take care of yourself.  If you frequently find yourself over-extended, think about what commitments you’d like to let go.  Learn to say “No” to tasks that drain your time and energy.

If you could say “No” to someone or something in your life…

Who or what would you say no to?

What project or obligation would you give up?

What relationship would you end?

What date might you break? 

List 5 things you’d like to say “no” to:

 

H3 Yoga Series: Part Four

Our fourth and final installment in the July Yoga Series videos with H3 Program Intern, Brigid.  Follow along to learn the basics of yoga, strengthening poses and stretches.

 

 

You tell me.  Now that our Yoga videos are over  — what topic would you be interested to see in our next H3 video series?

 

H3 Yoga Series: Part Three

Every Monday in July, we will be posting a video from our H3 Yoga Series. Follow along with H3 intern, Brigid, to learn the basics of yoga, strengthening poses and stretches.

 

 

Ask the Expert: Body Image

Q:  I avoid the gym because I’m afraid people will think I’m too fat to be there.  What can I do to feel more comfortable at the gym?

 

Beth LeermakersA: Beth Leermakers, Wellness Counselor:

People often assume that others are judging them.  However, chances are good that the folks who are working out aren’t paying any attention to you.  Many people are so busy worrying about what others are thinking about them that they don’t even notice the person on the treadmill next to them.  Another possibility is that those gym regulars are impressed that you are working out. 

Keep in mind that they were new to the gym once, too, and perhaps they too have lost weight.  When you allow your concerns about what other people may be thinking to keep you away from the gym, you are giving away your power to those unknown individuals.  Do you really want to allow strangers to control your behavior?

Instead of saying “I can’t go to the gym,” ask yourself “How can I go to the gym?”  Here are a few strategies that may help you feel more comfortable:

-  Wear workout clothes that you feel good in

-  Go when the gym isn’t as crowded

-  Go with a friend

-  Ask for an orientation and/or instruction on how to use the equipment

-  Work out with a personal trainer

 

Have a question?  The healthy lifestyle experts are here to help!  Email cmaddox@hhhealth.com with your question and check back every Thursday for our feature column.

 

Make Time for Your Healthy Lifestyle: Schedule Your Priorities

Lack of time” is one of the most common reasons people give for skipping their exercise and making unwise food choices.  At the end of a long day filled with work, family, and other responsibilities, finding the energy to exercise can be challenging, if not impossible.  Tasks that seem Urgent—meeting work deadlines, doing household chores, paying bills, dealing with crises—often crowd out important matters such as physical activity and healthy meals.

 

To make time for your healthy lifestyle, you first have to identify what behaviors and activities are most important to you.  Think about important behaviors in these areas:

 

-  Physical Activity

 

-  Eating

 

-  Stress Management/Relaxation

 

-  Sleep/Rest

 

-  Social/Relationships

 

 After you’ve identified the important behaviors/activities, schedule these first, before you fill in your time with other tasks.  You will probably need to block out time for physical activity, healthy meals, and relaxation. 

 

For example, you may choose to block out time for exercise from 7 to 8 AM.  You may designate a lunch hour and then choose not to schedule meetings during that time.  After you’ve scheduled your priorities, then you can fill in your other responsibilities around them.  By doing this, you will be more likely to have time and energy for the activities that truly matter to you.

 

Craving Control: Ride the Waves

Food cravings—intense desires to eat a specific food—come in waves, building in intensity.  If you don’t give in to the craving, it will subside and then gradually build again.  One effective way to manage cravings is to “ride the wave”—distract yourself until the craving passes.  Cravings usually last  no longer than 15-20 minutes.  To manage your cravings, start by delaying the decision to eat for 10 minutes.  During that time, do something that keeps your mind and/or hands occupied: 

- Exercise
- Do a crossword or Sudoku puzzle
- Polish your nails
- Play the piano
- Work in your garden
- Wash your car
- Call a friend
- Take a shower or bath
- Walk your dog
- Organize something
- Send an email
- Clean your house
- Practice tai-chi or yoga
- Knit
- Play solitaire

When the 10 minutes have passed, decide whether you still want to eat that food you are craving.  If so, decide what you will eat (perhaps a lower-fat, lower-calorie version would satisfy your craving) and how much you will eat.   Then measure the appropriate amount and eat slowly and mindfully.

 

Learning the Wright Way

Here at H3, I have heard Bob Wright say many times that weight loss is 80% diet and 20% exercise.  As many of you already know, Bob is our resident nutrition expert, an H3 veteran who has experienced and played a huge role in lifestyle changes for over 25 years.  Bob is a wealth of information complete with an ever-growing list of phrases we like to call ‘Bob-isms’.  So, long story short, what Bob says goes. 

So, when sitting in his Staying on Track session, I heard him say something that for the first time, I questioned.  You are probably already thinking that I was wrong, and don’t worry, you were right.

Sitting in class, a guest asks ‘When trying to lose weight – what is most important diet or exercise?’  Naturally, I expected his answer to be diet – but boy was I surprised when I heard him say – exercise.  ‘When attempting to make your lifestyle change, it’s very important to remain constant with your exercise.  Because when you are exercising regularly, you are more likely to make healthy food choices.’ 

Hmmm…how could this be if weight loss is 80 % diet and 20% exercise?  Well, thanks to an injury last week, I was able to experience this concept first-hand. 

Personally, when I exercise, it’s not really much about weight loss, but more how I feel during and after – the energy it gives me.  Not being able to exercise – whether in the form of a leisurely walk or a more intense circuit class – I was already doing my morale a disservice.  So when feeling crappy – what did I do?  Eat crappy.

Now fully recovered from my injury, I can get back to regular exercise which (SURPRISE) has helped improve my eating habits.  However, gathering enough motivation to get moving after taking time off is tough.  It’s no fun to feel like you are starting at square one and it can really crush any motivation you might have built up. 

To get back on track, my go-to method is to set mini-goals.  Going from no exercise to an hour every day is pretty ambitious.  Instead try setting a goal of 30 minutes, 3 days of the week.  Once you have easily achieved the mini-goal – you have the confidence to move forward to the next mini-goal of 5 days per week.  Before you know it, you’ll be back to your normal routine.   

How do you balance eating healthy and exercise so you don’t let both go?